I often ask couples to rate their marriage 1-10 with 1 being terrible and 10 being awesome. Often the husband will overrate the marriage while not being tuned into things that need changing. My experience is that the wife is more realistic and will rate the marriage lower.
I suggest that you talk and rate your own marriage together. This can give you direction and purpose in your marriage. If you discover some key isssues that need attention, then a marriage counselor could help team with you to find solutions to these dilemmas.
My desire for you is have a marriage that is powerfully satisfying.
Kent R. Brand, MSW, LCSW, PIP Marriage Counselor